There is a term in psychotherapy called ‘transference’; its when a client unconsciously transfers feelings and attitudes from a person or situation in the past on to a person or situation in the present. Its a common issue amongst therapists and their patients, and it is something to watch out for in Reiki, especially if your client becomes a regular.
Examples of Transference In an attempt to demystify transference, here are some very simple examples:
You meet someone at a party who reminds you of a favorite aunt and you find yourself feeling warmly towards this new acquaintance.
A client who has difficulty depending on others may find themselves feeling resentful, jealous, or angry towards their therapist without realizing there is a connection between these feelings and the therapist’s upcoming vacation.
A client who fears disapproval and rejection notices that they suddenly find themselves worried about judgment or criticism from their therapist when they start to talk about a certain topic or feel a particular feeling.
A perpetually single client prone to distrusting people may begin to view the therapist with suspicion as their relationship deepens.
A client who struggles with anger and hostility may find themselves similarly struggling with anger and hostility toward the therapist.
The problem with transference is that it distorts the healing and often delays insights as the client continues to project their past issues onto you as their therapist. Although in Reiki our relationship with clients tends to be more hands off, if we become more familiar with them, their is a chance this form of projection begi